Room to Play

I never thought that we would have a specific room for JillyBean to play with her toys. I mean, we played in our bedrooms growing up and didn't need a separate space, so she can do the same. Well, once we moved into the new house last summer, we designated the fourth bedroom as Jilly's room as well as the space for Daddy's TV and video games. Now I don't know what I would do without a playroom.

JillyBean does play in her bedroom a little. It is where her "library" is and her rocking horse and dolls. The playroom, though, is filled with her train sets, tea sets, cooking stuff, horses, plus her art stuff. She spends a lot of time in there.

This week I added some new decor to the room. This super cute fabric banner that spells out "create."

I have had my eye on these letters for a while at a local gift shop called novel. The store had a 40 percent off sale last week and I couldn't let it pass. I really love the way it looks and have it hanging over the art display that I made for Jilly several months ago using ribbon and clothes pens that I painted white.

I have a lot of ideas for decorating this room, but need to keep in mind that when it's used to its full potential, the result is this:

Love is...

Children's book author Susan Crites spoke at our MOPS meeting this week and introduced us to her wonderful little book, I Love You More Than Rainbows.

Her personal story is incredibly inspiring, including what led her to write this book. I naturally bought a copy for JillyBean and picked up another for a birthday gift. It's a sweet book that helps children grasp the concept of how much a parent can love them. As she said, saying I love you is one thing, but for a child to realize that means that you love them more than ice cream puts it on a whole other level.

It is important that we teach our children that loving someone is more than merely saying the words. If a love is true then you do all you can to make that person happy and help when they are in need without being asked. We have been teaching that lesson a bit these past few weeks. It also helps that Jilly's AWANA group is learning that God is Love. It's amazing how these themes come together. I have a hard time believing that it is coincidence.

New Friends

Our household has grown by three the past couple of months - two dogs and one little boy. No, we haven't adopted. They are all JillyBean's imaginary friends.

Air Bud was the first to enter our home, sometime in the Fall. I heard her yelling, "Air Bud! Come back!" I had no idea what she was saying or who she was saying it to, then it clicked. Snoopy arrived a month or so later. He causes trouble and is often sent to time out around nap time for keeping Jilly from sleeping. It is crazy how my "interaction" with these friends actually has an impact. Snoopy is booted from the bed and JillyBean goes to sleep.

The imaginary friend became a bit of an embarrassment one afternoon when Jilly and I were at a local Subway for lunch. We were sitting in a booth near a window that looked out at the parking lot. All of a sudden, Jilly jumped out of her seat and hollered, "SNOOPY!!!" She began moving toward the door, but stopping every so many feet, looking out the window, cupping her hands around her mouth and hollering, "SNOOPY!!!" I had no idea what was going on. I naturally followed her, stopped her and asked what was going on. She said, somewhat frantic, "That car has Snoopy!" while pointing out the window at no particular vehicle. I was unsure what to say, as the two other diners looked on, but tried to console her. I told her it was OK and that they were Snoopy's friends and they were taking him home. She didn't buy it at first, but after a couple of minutes she calmed down and went back to her lunch. The conversation continued on our way home with me assuring her that Snoopy would be home when we got there. She had her doubts.

And so it goes....Daily....

A new friend arrived at our house on Monday. I noticed Jilly walking through the hall with her hand cupped at her side, as if she were holding someone's hand, and she was whispering. I asked what she was doing and she said that she was showing the little boy around the house. Needless to say, I was happy to learn that this new friend is human and not another dog. I asked about this little boy and she told me his name is Carlos and he is from Haiti. "This is the little boy who got my box," she explained.

I cannot tell you how much this warmed my heart. We participated in Operation Christmas Child at Christmastime. We filled a shoe box with gifts for a little boy who lived somewhere between the Middle East and South America Southeast Asia and Africa. Each night during Christmas we prayed for the little boy who got our box. Once the earthquake hit Haiti last month I told Jilly that we still needed to pray for our little boy because of the disaster. For all we knew the box made its way to the hands of a Haitian child. We needed to pray that God is keeping him safe and that he is not scared. Apparently Carlos found safety in our home and we couldn't be happier to welcome him.

Slowing Down

"Be still and know that I am God..." Psalm 46:10

We experienced much slower paced days the past two weeks thanks to the snow. Jilly is not in school, but the school closings impacted our regular activities. We haven't been to Bible study the past two weeks, we didn't have MOPS and we did not have Kindermusik. We did not feel the need to head out and do things around town, either, opting instead to hang around the house. I know some parents are excited that school resumed today, ready to shoo kids back out the door so they can have a little peace and time to themselves. But I rather enjoyed being holed up these past few days. And the more we were "stuck" home the better our groove. The most frustrating part, for me, was not knowing what day of the week it was.

We did some art activities, a bit of baking and a lot of reading, but most of all we simply relaxed and took care of a little house business. I am blessed to have a child who can entertain herself for long periods of time. I cannot count the hours that JillyBean spent, mostly alone, in her toy room playing with her horses and trains, building bridges and castles, reading to her babies, and hosting tea parties. I know that I have mentioned this on several occasions, but her imagination excites me more than almost any of her other attributes and abilities. She's a thinker and is going to be a leader.

We were able to go to church yesterday and I was happy to see that she slipped right back into a "classroom" setting with ease. I was somewhat scared that we would revert to her shy self and not want us to leave her. AWANAS was another special outing last night, and again, she was happy to back with her teachers and friends.

I am thrilled that our regular activities will resume this week and that they should not be interrupted again. It is important for us to socialize and build on our relationship with others, but I am also happy to know that Jilly and I can make it just fine alone when necessary.

More Valentine Ideas

I love this Valentine card idea from the Erin at house on hill road.

She says that she must have seen it somewhere else and now that I have seen it, I'm going to file it away until next year. How cute would these be to hand these out to friends? Of course, JillyBean would have to add a bit of glitter and sparkle to hers. The possibilities are limitless.

Milk and Honey

A good friend recently brought an interesting book to my attention. Honey For A Child's Heart: The Imaginative Use For Books in Family Life is a look at how reading can not only enrich your child's life but also your family life.

I have been casually thumbing through the book for a couple of weeks now, but when JillyBean was feeling crummy on Saturday I used the time to dive into its pages. I will admit that nothing super surprising is revealed, but it does put a lot of thoughts and assumptions together with information I have learned over the years about the importance of introducing kids to books. Everything that you probably know about reading with your children gels together in this book.

Gladys Hunt approaches the subject from a Christian perspective, but I would not consider it a religious book. She doesn't guide parents away from particular subjects, rather challenges them to really think what lessons and images are important for them to pass along to their children. What sort of traits do you want your children to develop? Find characters and situations that will help them grow. Knowing her religious background, it was interesting to read her take on the Harry Potter series. The poor wizard got a bad rap from Christian church leaders for supposedly introducing children to witchcraft. She calls that bunk and discusses how children are quite able to distinguish between fantasy and reality. Besides, giving children a healthy dose of fantasy will not turn them into bad people.

She opened my eyes to quite a bit in regard to children's literature. For one, I realize that I cannot pass on my lack of enthusiasm for poetry to Jilly. I should use this time to rediscover the beauty of some poems and introduce it to her and help her grow an appreciation for the art. I also need to be on the look out for diluted versions of classic children's tales. I grew up loving the Laura Ingalls Wilder Little House on the Prairie series. Apparently they have been rewritten into easier chapter-styled books and much of the beauty of Ms. Wilder's prose is lost. Also, Disney has done its share to dumb-down great children's stories so I should be weary of branding and marketing schemes. I have a specific concern for this in regard to A. A. Milne's beautiful Winnie the Pooh series, which sadly has been hijacked by Disney. Pooh was a childhood favorite of mine. I dreamed of living in the Hundred Acre Wood and going on adventures with Pooh, Piglet and Eyore. I fear that Jilly will never grasp the sweetness of the relationship between Christopher Robin and Pooh and instead will continue to ask about Darby and Buster who are part of the My Friends Tigger and Pooh series on TV. Daddy says I don't need to worry. As she grows older so will her appreciation for real stories.

Artwork is just as important as language is in children's books. As Hunt discusses, small children will "read" the pictures before they learn to read the words. I have certainly seen this in JillyBean. The art of a book can draw a child deeper into the story and such images will remain with them forever.

Finally, Hunt made me rethink the importance of reading with your child. Sure it helps with language development, but more than anything it strengthens the parent/child relationship. Naturally we read to our children at this age, since they can't read on their own, but it's important to read aloud or continue to read books together as children grow older. As she writes, reading aloud brings the story and its characters to life. Plus, sharing a book together creates a bond. Characters in books become shared friends and plots become shared experiences.

Honey For A Child's Heart includes a great book list in the back with suggestions for toddlers to teens. It is a valuable tool and will now be a standard shower gift for everyone I know having a baby, so act surprised when you receive one.

Valentine's Week

In spite of the 18 inches of snow outside our front door, it is a lovely day today. However, Jilly and I had some catch-up work to do in preparation for Valentine's Day. We started early this morning finalizing Valentine cards to get in the mail and made a couple of other crafts. I knew that I was on the right track when JillyBean looked up at me, smiled and said, "mommy, I have so much fun with you." It made my heart melt.
First things first, we had to complete the Valentine's cards that we started a couple of weeks ago. I got the idea from the February issue of Martha Stewart's Living. These cards were made by rolling up pieces of corrugated cardboard and turning them into stamps. Martha's idea was that they would look like roses (you can also cut a piece of cork to make the stem), but I thought that they turned out looking like hearts, which was perfect.

Jilly dabbed the stamps in red ink and went to town. Each person who receives one of her cards this year gets an original and no two are alike. As I mentioned, we did these a couple of weeks ago. I don't know if it was the paper that we used or if she overdid it on the ink, but they needed some time to dry before flipping them over to complete.
On the other side, we wrote a personalized Happy Valentine's Day note to each recipient, attached a photo and stuck on a couple of festive stickers. I think that they're cute and unique and will be cherished by each family member and friend who receives one. Plus, other than the writing, the cards were completely decorated and designed by Jilly. I didn't give any suggestions to her about the amount of ink she used or the placement or amount of stamping she did. She was very proud of the final product as well.

In addition, Jilly and I completed our Valentine chandelier that I mentioned last week. It turned out just as lovely as I had hoped and spices up the dining room quite nicely. We decided to hang it in there to surprise Daddy when he gets home tonight. Hopefully he'll notice. Jilly helped glue the hearts together with her trusty glue stick. She is such a pro!

Spending a morning doing crafts with Jilly is one of my favorite things to do. It gives us time to work together and talk about not only what we are doing at that moment but other things going on around us. I treasure mornings like this.